When The Unthinkable Happens

Miscarriage sadly occurs to many women and it can be debilitating, shocking and painful. How you approach your journey can deeply affect the outcome of your miscarriage recovery.

It is normal to feel pain and loss and a very important step back to a normal life. Acknowledging how tough it is to see babies and pregnant women in the street is a good first step. Let yourself feel the ‘why me' emotions and face them head on. Pretending they are not there can leave you mentally exhausted as you struggle through a mine field of daily reminders.

Partners can be just as affected even if they show it differently. Invite them to talk about how they are feeling, with you or a trusted friend. Support is paramount to you both and can be beneficial in releasing all those emotions you have inside you.

So where do you go from here? There are no hard rules for dealing with grief. Your miscarriage recovery begins with you being kind to yourself and taking each day as it comes. Learn to give yourself a break and not to expect too much in terms of how long recovery will take.

Focus on the importance of grieving for as long as you need to, this cannot be rushed. Remember you and your partner have suffered an ordeal that may take many months to recover from.


Taking Time Out

Baby showers, christenings and first birthday parties can be hard. Usually they are the last thing you want to be reminded of at this vulnerable time. Celebrating other people’s babies can make you feel like you have failed and be a painful reminder of what you have lost.

Yes it hurts seeing yet another pregnant woman in the street. Yes it hurts seeing another new born baby. Yes it hurts attending another baby shower. So don’t! If being around babies is too much to handle right now, learn to say no. Those who love you will understand.
Try to look for women in the street who aren’t pregnant. It’s a great distraction from all those protruding bellies and may surprise you as to how many non pregnant women are out there. 
Important...
  • Look after yourself; visit your GP to keep your health on track
  • Yoga, Meditation, Acupuncture and a Naturopath may be of benefit in your miscarriage recovery
  • Sleep and rest as much as you can, grief can be a physically draining experience
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